I opened up an email one day. I have not ever seen so many capitalized words and exclamation points in any one email. If you don’t know, capitalized words are used either for emphasis or yelling.
Let’s just say, that person was not happy with me.
They had gotten their information from someone else. I don’t know when I have seen so many lies, false accusations, and assumptions woven together with such great skill and talent.
After I got this email, I picked up the phone and called the sender to calmly correct the information, and I never heard another word about it.
If we’ve been hurt a lot in the past, we may feel the need to defend ourselves more aggressively than I did. We may even feel the need to change someone’s opinion of us. We may have hurt feelings. We may have trouble letting go of the issue.
When we are falsely accused, sometimes it’s just a simple misunderstanding. At other times, it is not about us at all. On the flesh side of things, going back to my email, I don’t know, but I suspect that the real issues were between the other 2 folks. I just happened to have been in the wrong place. Some things are just better off left alone.
We can spend all our time tied up in hurt because of what someone else says or thinks, or we can go on to more pleasant things. In most cases, we really do have that choice.
We really are who God says we are. We need to let the rest go.
On the spiritual side of things, we know about accusing and the accuser.
Thou shalt not bear false witness against thy neighbour.
Exodus 20:16
And I heard a loud voice saying in heaven, Now is come salvation, and strength, and the kingdom of our God, and the power of his Christ: for the accuser of our brethren is cast down, which accused them before our God day and night.
Revelation 12:10
Yes, Satan is the accuser. Satan and the demons do try to use others to make us miserable.
Remember, God sees everything that happens, and He knows the truth. We cannot control how other people think, or what they do. We simply cannot fix other people.
I am so grateful that it is not our responsibility to fix them, nor is it their responsibility to fix us! Only God can change hearts. – This is not a comment on parenting! We do need to discipline our children.
When someone falsely accuses you, think about this verse:
And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.
Romans 8:28
God works through all our circumstances – even the ones that are difficult for us to accept. Be encouraged, God has it under control.
LIFE APPLICATION
Key Focal Verse:
For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways, saith the LORD. For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways, and my thoughts than your thoughts.
Isaiah 55:8-9
We have several challenges before us today. First, we do not want to be a false accuser. Second, we need to remember to give it over to God. And thirdly, we need to pray before we attempt to handle the situation. God will show us the best way to handle it.